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How We Shut Down What We Want

By Leo Babauta

One thing I’ve learned about myself in the last year or so is how much I shut down what I want.

Somehow the world taught me that what I want is not acceptable, that I should only want what seems reasonable, doable, or won’t inconvenience others.

So I rarely even acknowledge that I want something. I shut it down.

Here are just some of the reasons I tell myself I don’t want something:

It’s not possible, so I don’t really want it.I don’t think I can achieve it, so focus on the doable.Others might be able to do it, but I can’t.I don’t have the discipline to stick to this, I can’t trust myself.I don’t have the money for it, it would be irresponsible.I don’t have time, I’m too busy.I would feel guilty if I allowed myself to have this.Other people would judge me if I gave this to myself.The other person would reject me if I asked for it.It’s too complicated.It’s not worth all the effort.I shouldn’t want this.

Do any of these sound familiar to you? Wanting something has become laden with judgment, fear, guilt, and self-doubt. And so we shut it down.

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Free Training: 5 Myths About Finding Purpose & a Method for Creating Purpose

A lot of people I work with struggle to dive into their meaningful work because they get stopped up by beliefs they have about finding a purpose.

I can’t find my purpose because I don’t have the time, I am not good enough, I don’t have any clarity, I’m not ready, I don’t have the money to create it powerfully.

Anything that’s stopping us are myths! They are beliefs we’ve created that are getting in our way.

What I’ve found powerful is admitting to ourselves that we want a purpose, a mission, something meaningful in our lives.

What I’ve found powerful is taking ownership of creating that, moving all the false beliefs out of the way so that we can finally have what we truly desire.

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The High Bar of Expectations Can Crush Our Creativity

By Leo Babauta

I have clients who really set high standards for themselves: they want to write amazing blog posts, create inspiring music, profound works of art, a thriving business that reaches hundreds of thousands of people.

These are beautiful aspirations, and I love what we are aiming for. It’s amazing!

And yet, if you are setting out to create a masterpiece … what does that do to you when you show up at the blank page or canvas? It can bring immense fear of not being able to produce that masterpiece, or worries of falling short of our hopes and dreams.

These kind of expectations can often crush any creativity we start out with.

So should we have zero goals or expectations, have no standards, and no hopes and dreams? Or should we just not even try?

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Training to Be Relaxed in Stressful Situations

By Leo Babauta

Many of us face things every day that stress us out: overwhelming number of tasks, a big meeting, a project that feels really tough, behind on paying bills, someone is upset at us, there’s a family crisis, the world feels chaotic.

Can we find a way to be relaxed in almost any stressful situation?

Absolutely. It just takes some training. And lots of practice.

Let’s imagine you’re feeling stressed right now, about whatever you need to do, about an interpersonal conflict, about something coming up in the near future …

What is it that’s stressing you out about this? You might start telling me all the details of the situation, or all the things the other person has done wrong … but that’s your narrative about it. The thing that’s stressing you out is the narrative, or how you view the situation or person.

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A Well Lived Life of Purpose

By Leo Babauta

Most of the people I know and work with want a life of meaning and purpose, not a life where we just get by …

A well lived life, that feels meaningful.

But this isn’t taught in schools, and most of us feel completely unsure of how to move towards this.

I’m not going to fully answer how to live a life of purpose in this article … but I’d love to talk about how to move in that direction.

Commitment

The first thing you might consider is committing yourself to finding a life of purpose. How important is that to you? Are you willing to move into uncertainty for this, or is comfort and safety more important to you at the moment?

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